1.BREATHE
You may feel like your world is turning upside down. Your thoughts and emotions are likely difficult to understand. You will experience a lot of confusion and have many questions. Unfortunately and fortunately, this is all normal. You are not crazy. As much as possible, practice deep breathing and stay tuned into you. This is going to go take a while to sort out and to make decisions. Right now it’s vital to just keep breathing.
You are not alone. There is help waiting for you when you’re ready.
2. EDUCATE YOURSELF,
There is a wealth of resources to read to help you gain insight into what you’re dealing with.Try not to think that you have to figure everything out right now or read everything you possibly can about this addiction. However, getting some understanding of what’s going on will help. Asking people for advice about what has helped them along their journey is a good idea too. Suggested reading includes:
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– Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts
– IntimateTreason:HealingtheTraumaforPartnersConfrontingSexAddiction
– Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts
– Your Sexually Addicted Spouse: How Partners Can Cope and Heal
3. REACH OUT FOR SUPPORT
There are many who have walked in your shoes and are familiar with what you’re going through. It may seem like you have no none to talk to, however, you do not have to experience this alone. While it may seem daunting to go to a meeting, many have found them very helpful. There are many 12 step meetings for partners of sex addicts. Feel free to check out the websites for:
– COSA – www.cosa-recovery.org
– S-Anon – www.sanon.org
– POSA – www.posarc.com
4. PRACTICE SELF CARE
The last thing we want to have happened is for you to lose yourself in this pain and confusion. Try to keep some focus on doing things that bring you some level of joy or comfort. Get sun on your skin. You are important and you deserve to thrive.
A big part of self-care is keeping yourself safe. This may be hard to hear, but if you think your partner is having sex with others and is not being honest about it, you will need to protect yourself. If you decide to have sex with your partner, it is important that you use protection until you know what is going on.
While it may not seem like it right now, you will get through this. It’s going to be a long journey, but you will make it through – whatever that looks like. You will survive.
We hope this has been helpful for you. Addicted to Porn
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