How Do I Even Live a Normal Life Now?
Now that the affair is out in the open, both you and your partner will have a lot to process as you approach various situations in a new light. It might feel like no one has ever experienced the levels of hurt and betrayal that you are feeling right now, but, unfortunately, there have been many others before you, and it may be helpful for you to think through the levels of betrayal trauma that they have identified:
What Do I Do Now?
What Should the Unfaithful Partner Do?
What Should We Do Together?
Above and beyond couples therapy, your counselor will have some suggestions for “homework assignments” to aid the healing of your relationship, but here are a few suggestions:
To hear more from Marnie Breecker of the Center for Relational Healing, listen to these two episodes of The Addicted Mind podcast here:
http://theaddictedmind.com/episode-21-relational-betrayal-trauma-marnie-breecker/
http://theaddictedmind.com/episode-22-relational-betrayal-trauma-marnie-breecker-part-2/
Cultivating mindfulness in your life can help you feel less stress and build positive emotions. With just a few dedicated minutes a day, you can create more resilience. Give it a try and see if it help you.
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