Helping Couples Find Their Way

Couples Therapy
Long Beach

Couples Therapy In Long Beach, Orange County. We Are Now Providing Online Telehealth Sessions!

Couples therapy is a branch of psychotherapy that focuses on two individuals who are romantically involved together. Contrary to what most people believe, couples therapy is not reserved only for those who are in crisis or are experiencing issues within their love lives; it is also a highly valuable practice for couples who are in perfectly healthy relationships as well!

Many of us are unaware of the fact that relationships are a life skill that requires practice, and fundamental knowledge to succeed. If a college course was taught on how to have a better more meaningful romantic relationship where you would acquire the skills necessary to do so; couples therapy would be that course.

It is not a sign of weakness or an admission of defeat in your relationship. For some, it is simply a chance to become better at connecting with their partner, or to learn one another more fully.

For others, it may be the defining line between continuing to fight for their lost passion or raising a white flag and never looking back. For everyone, however, it is the conscious decision to make an effort in forwarding their relationship.

All couples will indeed have rough patches. These hardships are often the foundations that we build our relationship’s dynamic on, which will echo throughout our relationships; even into future ones.

Whether consciously or subconsciously, we internalize all of the events that occur from the moment we meet someone until the moment we part ways. This is what shapes the view we have of our partner, for better or worse.

By engaging the core dynamics of a relationship, presenting an otherwise unseen dialog, and getting to the root of the couple’s concerns, we help them to better understand themselves, their relationship, and one another.

At Novus Mindful Life Institute, we provide you with the tools you need to repair or strengthen the bond you share with your partner. Providing services for Long Beach, Ca, Orange County, Ca, and now online telehealth sessions as well; we can help you achieve your goals with your partner.

We can help you build the future that you and your partner are destined for!

Do You Need Couples Therapy?

Only you and your partner can decide if couples therapy is right for you. Countless variables shape a relationship to make it what it becomes, many of which are unique. This makes it difficult to suggest that any particular couple is more likely to see a benefit from couples therapy than the next.

However, unless you are simply looking to build a stronger bond, or to know one another more deeply; some definitive signs might imply you would see a massive improvement within your relationship if you choose to have couples therapy sessions with us at Novus Mindful Life Institute.

Some of the following you may already be quite aware of as being important parts of a lasting relationship. These are the building blocks that make up every part of a healthy, lasting, enjoyable experience with your partner. If you are located within the Long Beach area and any of the following seems to resonate with you on a personal level, then it may very well benefit you and your partner to contact us today!

couple holding hands during a therapy sessionSigns & Symptoms That You May
Need Couples Therapy

 

Communication

 

One of the biggest contributors to, or downfalls of a great relationship is communication. Communication doesn’t always mean “talking it out”. It is the general breadth of engagement that occurs through every small action we do (or in some cases don’t do). It requires conscious effort from both sides to mindfully communicate healthily for a relationship to evolve positively and flourish. A few signs to be aware of that are indicative of poor communication are:

  • Defensiveness or apprehension when engaged by your partner.
  • Constant belittling and/or criticizing one another.
  • Assumptions regarding what your partner is thinking.
  • Dwindling attempts and/or opportunities to connect.
  • Passive aggressiveness.
  • Silent treatments, cold shoulder, stonewalling.
  • Lack of compromise from either partner.
  • Arguments that never find resolution or ones that seem to repeat.

It’s important to note that the previously mentioned circumstances are symptoms to look for, but they are not the effects that may result from the symptoms. Predisposed resentment towards one another, which causes both people to lose the ability to listen to one another with intent. The remainder of the effects is a waterfall that derives from this alone.

The most common effects that are experienced by couples with communication issues are:

  • Higher rates of overall conflict between partners.
  • Avoiding opportunities to have real connections.
  • Feelings of loneliness, exile, invisibility, etc.
  • Passion and/or intimacy issues.
  • An impossibility to reach common goals.

The nature of communication problems makes the scope of the issue hard to see fully from the inside. It may seem obvious to you that your relationship is lacking communication in many ways, but unless you and your partner can find a way to convey that to the other, then it’s unlikely that progress can be made.

Couples therapy and counseling are the perfect way to figure out where you both are getting the signals crossed. At Novus Mindful Life, we’ll open a dialogue for you, and your partner that may never have been a possibility without a therapist’s perspective. One simple conversation could very well tip the scales on the communicative abilities you share, or lack.

Serving Long Beach, Ca, as well as Orange County, Ca; all it takes is one call to begin communicating better with your partner! The sooner you start, the more time you’ll have to enjoy one another!


 

Novus Counseling and Recovery Center Helps Couples Heal their MarriageTrust & Security

Trust means much more than believing your partner will never cheat on you or vice versa. Trust means letting your entire guard down and completely exposing your vulnerabilities. By doing this, you give the other person the keys to this vulnerable part of yourself and know without a doubt that they will never feel the need to open that door for any reason. This is the base of trust and security; the knowledge that you and your partner will never falter or doubt the love that you share.

Trust issues can arise for all sorts of reasons, and many times it isn’t even due to the relationship we are currently involved with, and sometimes it isn’t even a relationship at all. Some insecurities come from trauma experienced as children, the death of a loved one, or even a prolonged subjection to being taken advantage of by anyone we trusted.

That being said, if the root cause seems to be an individual concern rather than a relationship issue, couples therapy can still help to heal these wounds. Having your partner there alongside you, or vice versa will certainly help to strengthen your love and understanding of one another.

We are all aware of the obvious signs such as blatant unjustified jealousy, checking the person’s accounts, or phone messages, accusations, etc; regardless, below you’ll find some of the less-obvious telling signs of a relationship suffering from trust issues:

  • Anxiousness is felt by either partner when the other is out of reach, or out of contact. When one person has to know the whereabouts and happenings of the other at all times.
  • Hiding thoughts, and emotions from the other partner. Trying to prevent them from having access to those vulnerabilities.
  • Having to constantly be reassured of the other’s commitment, or love.
  • Anxiety regarding the level of commitment from the other partner. So much that it becomes a tightrope or eggshells that must be walked on.
  • Either partner testing the other. Methods vary, but the tests always seek to validate the partner’s commitment.

This list is not comprehensive and doesn’t even begin to encapsulate the extreme variation found in the symptoms of insecurity. If you feel that trust is a concern in your relationship that may never improve without intervention, we are here to help!

At Novus Mindful Life, we will facilitate the mediation, and non-bias assessment of your concerns, then allow you, and your partner to reach deeply into your recent or distant pasts to find the root of the issues. From that point on, you’ll have a better understanding of why these feelings affect your connection, and may even have the tools to repair your trust; whether as a couple or individually!

If you reside outside of the Long Beach area; no worries! For your convenience, we are now providing online sessions as well, alleviating the need for travel, and mitigating any concerns regarding the pandemic.

Intimacy

Lack of, or low-quality intimacy is one of the more difficult things to solve as a couple. This is due to the enormous spectrum of possible causes that may be unknown, even to the couple. It may also be hard to alleviate any underlying symptoms if a person isn’t willing to discuss them, or if the person is concealing them for fear of embarrassment.

In any case, it’s usually able to be self-diagnosed, but not so easy to overcome. The effects may come, and go periodically, or they may linger for years! It’s important to rule out any possible related medical conditions before seeking out treatments elsewhere. Assuming both of you are in good health, here are a few indicators that your sex life is suffering:

  • Sexual dissatisfaction on any level. This may entail unmet expectations of intimate frequency or the duration of individual occurrences. It may entail a lack of passion or a desire for new experiences. Countless variables can affect this.
  • Loss of sexual desire by either partner.
  • Intimacy becomes a treat or a form of punishment that can be revoked.
  • Feeling as if your partner is more of a roommate who shares a bed, or worse yet, sleeping in separate rooms, or beds.
  • Setting routines for sexual encounters, or reserving them for specific dates such as birthdays, etc.
  • Sex sessions leave both partners unsatisfied.
  • Frustration during sex at the inability to please one or both partners.

The signs may seem obvious to most, but some have stumbled into these issues and have become accustomed to them. Some couples are even totally without sexual contact! These types of situations are usually swept under the rug for any number of reasons, however, for an intimacy problem to be solved it must be addressed.

Some of the more common causes of intimacy issues are:

  • Stress-related circumstances such as work, kids, finances, life changes, etc.
  • Loss of passion, connection, interest, or attraction.
  • Medical conditions of either mental or physical nature. Prostate cancer in men is a common reason, or menopause in women. Depression, anxiety, or insecurities for either partner are common as well.
  • Underlying issues elsewhere in the relationship such as trust issues, or bottled up resentment for any reason.

These types of concerns may be difficult to discuss with a therapist, but it’s important to remember that we’re here to help you overcome your problems as a couple. We never discuss your business outside of therapy, and we never judge any person for any reason.

At Novus Mindful Life, you are guaranteed a place of respect and honor, where your concerns (no matter the nature) are taken seriously and with empathetic, non-bias attention.

Serving Long Beach, Ca, and the surrounding areas; we strive to help you live a better life with your partner! We are here to help. That’s what we do!

Save your relationship

The Novus Counseling and Recovery Center can help save your relationship from a breakup or divorce.

At Novus, we believe in creating emotionally intelligent relationships, where both people take an active part in building a relationship or marriage that works for both. We use proven relationship therapy techniques based on the research by John Gottman and other leaders in the field of couples therapy.

Many couples wait too long to ask for help, which makes the relationship therapy process more difficult and less effective.

If you are having problems with communication, parenting differences, priority-setting, a mother-in-law, even infidelity, the sooner you begin therapy, the better.

Get closer to your partner

Have you ever wanted to feel closer to your spouse? Couples therapy can help this come true. Many people have unconscious barriers making it very hard to get closer to them. With a strong relationship counselor, these barriers will become apparent, making it possible to remove them.

How couples communicate with each other is a key factor in how the relationship functions. Therapist near will identify how you two communicate, then teach you more effective ways to talk and listen to each other.

Therapists at the Novus Mindful Life Insitute Counseling and Recovery Center are experts. All of our therapists were selected to work for us because of their skill, experience, and motivation to help couples. We also have a variety of therapists with different training and styles, so you can find a good fit.

Many couples wait too long, which makes relationship therapy more difficult because there is more water under the bridge. Take care of yourself and your marriage by taking action. Marital problems don’t just go away by themselves.

Don’t Wait Until It’s Too Late

Many couples wait to get into couples therapy until their problems are so bad that it’s hard to heal. If you think you would benefit from meeting with a couples therapist, schedule an appointment and get started. It only gets harder as resentment builds. Let our experts at the Novus help you and your relationship.

 

 

Reach out for help now.

Call us today at 562-418-5574 or Email us at info@novusmindfullife.com

At Novus, we provide a compassionate team of professionals who will work with you with a level of commitment that you will not find anywhere else. Let us help you start or further your recovery today.