Counseling and Therapy for Infidelity
Unfaithfulness or infidelity in a committed relationship can strain the relationship between two people. Intense emotions such as betrayal, jealousy, hurt, confusion and isolation are likely to come up and affect the partner who has been cheated on. Often, an affair can lead to the end of a relationship. Other times, couples work through the issue with the support of a professional counselor. With professional support, true remorse, understanding and forgiveness may be realized.
“Relationships do overcome infidelity. It’s not easy, but with hard work, it can be repaired.”
Infidelity does not always mean that a relationship is over. Most of the time both partners want to work to save the relationship. At Novus, we have found that many couples harmed by infidelity stay together and work it out. Professional counseling can help speed up the process of healing the relationship. In some cases, counseling helps both partners discover what they need in their relationship. Counseling can help a couple set clear expectations and clear goals going forward.
“Happy people cheat.” Esther Perel
As Perel describes, people who love eachother have affairs. Our experience here at Novus has shown us that when people cheat, it is not because they do not love their spouse or partner or want to end their relationship. In fact, most of our clients love and cherish their families and have a strong desire to keep them intact and happy! Many people who cheat believe in monogamy and faithfulness but have found themselves crossing a line where their behavior does not match that belief. The reasons for that vary from an erotic experience that proved too tempting when the opportunity arose to the desire to change some part of themselves (as opposed to their partner who they love.) The point is, infidelity doesn’t have to mean the end. It can, in some ways, be a wake up call, and potentially the start of a new beginning.